My husband and I are not so unique – we’re best friends and date nights are more than romantic candlelight dinners. We love to get out, do things together and just have fun together rather than get all dolled up into uncomfortable clothing. We’re casual and comfortable, and we love just being together, and this is so important in a marriage. Once you’re married, you shouldn’t be looking to impress each other with how much you can spend on gifts or dates. Your nights should be more about bonding and making your relationship stronger. Dating your significant other should never go away, but it doesn’t mean you have to go broke or waste energy on something that is meaningless to your relationship, so I am sharing a few of my favorite date ideas with my husband to keep our pocketbooks and our hearts full.
It sounds so juvenile, but Jeff and I LOVE to take $20 and go to the arcade. It usually gives us an hour of fun and we love just being kids again playing our favorite games. Date nights don’t always have to be about being an adult!
During the holidays, grab some cocoa and snacks, hop in the car and tour your local neighborhoods finding the best Christmas lights. My husband, being the jokster he is, always makes me laugh pointing out the “flaws” in the displays, like one house missing a wise man! You’ll be surprised what you may see!
This is a classic – pull up to your local rink during free skate and drop a few dollars on rental skates for a little fun. I can hold my own, but this is something Jeff loves even more, being a hockey player. You may fall a few times, but you’re always there to pick each other up.
Baseball, hockey, local or national – sports are all over the place, seasonally. If your significant other or yourself are big sports fan, go together and enjoy the time you have. My husband is definitely the bigger sports fan than myself, but enjoying the time and learning something new about the game from him makes us feel closer and bond over the experience. Plus, beer and hot dogs are always best at sports games.
Take it back to your teenage years and just walk around the local mall seeing what’s there. Jeff and I love to just window shop and try funny clothes on just for laughs. Plus our mall has a puppy store where you can go play and we almost always walk out with one until we see the price tags on them. One day!
This took some time for Jeff and I to do – he is more of an organized sports person and I just like to do my own thing in the gym, but when I started doing yoga again, he surprisingly didn’t fight me when I asked if he wanted to come. Learning it together and attending fitness classes was so fun and a little competitive to try to beat each other. We also love to do fun 5K races together, like the Color Run. For just the registration fee, we get out of the house to experience something active and fun.
For the outdoorsy kind, getting out together can be unique and give you time to bond. Sitting in a boat together, or hiking a trail gives you alone time you may not get during the work week and forces you put your phone down for just a little bit.
For food dates, we often all resort to somewhere we’re familiar with, but trying a new place can open your eyes. Go to a bakery and order multiple small snacks and pastries. Try them together and debate which ones are your favorite. Try new cocktails, coffees and smoothies, experience new worldly flavors and just have fun doing it all. Stay off your phones and talk more about your day-to-day and future plans.
You would be surprised how close your local producer is. There are wineries, breweries and distilleries all around the nation that you can tour for a few dollars that typically include samples. Go for a nice lunch before or dinner after to absorb some of the alcohol (and remember, no drinking and driving!).
We have a local place near us called Sky Zone and my husband loves it! With rooms full of trampolines and courses, it’s entertainment that is also a workout. Have fun and act like a kid all over again.
No one is perfect at cooking, but learning something together can make your relationship closer through communication and bonding. Or, try your hand at painting or pottery making in an art class – you can even do your best Patrick Swayze impersonation from Ghost for a split second. Experiencing something new together regularly helps to build your communication bonding and also gives you the opportunity to have fun.
One of the best “dates” my husband and I had while planning our wedding was working on wedding DIY projects together. He loved being the man with the power tool skills while I did the planning and painting. Setting a day aside, we would take a trip to the hardware store together, plan it out and build whatever we needed to the best of our abilities. Soon, we’ll be doing the same all over again after closing on our house and renovating, and I’m more excited for that than any fancy date night out.
Spend your weekend morning in bed with breakfast and a few of your favorite episodes. Order food from your favorite restaurant for delivery or cook it yourself and spend time together in a comfortable, relaxed place for just the two of you.