To some, there is no difference. To me, there should always be. When you’re getting married, it can become very superficial, focusing on the materialistic construction of what your wedding day looks like in order to appease those around you. Many lose themselves in this process and fail to regain their relational strength afterwards because they forget that they’re supposed to be married, not getting married.
Being married is about you two, that’s it. The way you communicate, the way you interact, the way you build your life and love together – these are the key elements to being married. When planning our wedding, I was sure that every fight and stressful decision would suddenly become completely worthwhile to make our relationship look better to everyone else at our wedding. It’s not that we had a bad relationship in the first place, but we focused so hard in the process of getting married and crossing the threshold, that we completely forgot who we are and who we will be when we are married.
Walking toward my husband and our many guests on my wedding day, I could only think one thing: nothing is perfect to the vision I’ve been working on for two years, but my husband is standing right there and that’s all I need right now. He loves me and I love him – As The Beatles say, “love is all you need.” That’s what being married is like – nothing will ever be perfect, but it’s the way you support, love and cherish each other through the flow of daily life with comfort and console that makes marriage what it is. Your end goal in being engaged should not just get married, but be married and prepare to live your life with your best friend. Watching our friends and family dance the night away at our reception made every fight, disagreement and stressful time not worth the happiness we could have had throughout the process together because let’s be real, they could have cared less about the decor.
Having just spent two years in the most stressful situation ever planning a wedding, the two months we have been married are beyond what we could have ever expected in the best way possible. In it, we’ve had a lot of reflection and have learned that our time together is about quality over quantity and action. Because we are fresh off the wedding life, I put together some of the best tips to remove the wedding stress:
Enjoy a recap of our favorite moments and photos from the big day!